Sickie Poos

Sorry for the silence ( becoming a bitof a habit)

I have been working on Waiting For Tori blog, but it gets a bit heavy so, i have taken a break from it> my last blog post is still sitting in my heart, I think mainly, because its the first time i have actually put it down in writting.

Miscarriage is hectic, and one cannot realate unless you have experienced it yourself. Its a very private loss, that only you and your partner can mourn.

Anyway, I had a week for hell, starting last wee Tuesday evening, when Tori would not settle or sleep! Besides being exhausted on wednesday, I was also a bit stressed. Joshua had strated being a bit fluish on Sunday, but with him being onlder and me having more experience with his body, I am usually able to “fix” him with the standard allergex, cough mixture and nose spray but he also just didnt seem to be able to shake it.

So Wednesday morning I bundled both into the car, Tori looking worse for wear and Josh pretty perky, and made my way to the GP. By the time i had gotten there ( 2minutes literally) the roles had swapped, Tori all perky and Josh barely able to stand.

In the waiting room Joshua started screaming in pain, I was pretty fraxzled and the doctor took us through immediately. With every little prod and poke on my poor child’s belly he would let out an agonising groan. I was given a free pass,do not stop and collect ticket to the hospital. To say I was freaking out is an under statement.

I managed to get Tori collected, Philip to leave work ( he was in Roodeport for the day)and I hightailed it to the hospital with my child bundled in the back seat. I did the whole hazards and get the hell out of the way thing.

At the hospital he was seen by the general surgeon and admitted for the night, he had to endure, blood tests, cathaters and having a drip inserted 3 times! He was still in terrible pain and the fact they couldnt get a cathater in was worring the nursing staff, the surgeon and just plain freaking Philip and I out. The nurses took mercy and letthe child be and we prayed for hime to wee.

and wee he did, then miraclously his pain, was gone! So the surgoen ruled oyut appendix and went start for a referral to a urologist.

Again the uroglogist was worried about the fact we couldnt get a cathater in and sheculed the poor child for a scope! which he handled like a champ – even though he thinks he swallowed the camera! after all that nothing was found, it turns out he had a bladder infection.

Amongst all of this I had a 5 month old with terrible flu and Philip and I were running on the bare minimum sleep. And by Sunday to say we were pooped is sugar coating it.

Besides all of this, and regardless of the fact, that my kid was prodded and poked in what seems very unnecesary procedures. I would do it again. There was no way of telling what was going on in his body and I am just utterly grateful that I am one of the fortunate ones that can afford a decent medical aid and that my child can get the best medical care out there.

My bunnies are now, thankfully, back to normal and my household has resumed normal functions.

That was my week of last, how was yours?

Cheers, adios, bye or whatever the appropriates sign off is…….

ME.

Waiting for Tori – Part 1

I love to read other people’s birth stories; it always stirs up the emotions of having Tori and Josh. The experience I had with each of my children is vastly different from each other, but the one thing that remains the constant is the emotion.

I can’t go into much detail with Joshua’s birth, I really don’t have much recollection of it, I just remember being over whelmed with loneliness and excitement all at once. Because, that how it was, I was “alone” and I was excited. I get sad looking back at it, but it’s because of him that I am where I am, he was the force pushing me from behind to do better, I hope I have done him well.

Tori on the other hand, that’s still fresh in my mind. This kid, she is my softest spot ever. I look at her in amazement, and still go “wow” you are here and you are my baby!

So here is my Tori Story (hehehehe):

Falling pregnant with Josh was easy, and that’s only because I wasn’t trying. After Josh however, I was adamant that my next baby would be born in wedlock! Simple really, get married, have babies, live happy ever after.

Well not quite, after struggling for almost 2 years, Philip and I realized something was wrong and we needed help! After many consultations, timed cycles, test, ops to remove endometriosis, medication that turned me into an evil dragon, my husband being forced to do things in a lab no man should have to, a near divorce and just plain old depression and a diagnosis of secondary infertility, I threw in the towel.
I resigned myself to the fact I will always only have one child and that that should be good enough. I counted myself lucky, because on my journey to conceive I had met many women, who have tried harder and longer, cried more and hurt more and STILL had nothing out of the deal. YES I was Lucky!

Then in Feb 2010, I just didn’t feel right, I was sick and lethargic and just plain blergh. I drag myself to the doc and it was discovered I was pregnant. I did not expect it; it was the last thing on my mind! I rushed and told every single Tom, Dick and Harry that cared to listen. But alas it was not meant to be and I lost the baby. It was tough but I could deal with it, for some reason, it just didn’t sit right with me anyways. Fate played his hand.

Philip and I decided it would be best to give my mind, body and soul time to recuperate and in April 2010 I told him that I felt ready to “try” again. I wasn’t holding out much hope especially after it took as nearly 3 and a half years to conceive the first one. I had such little faith, that I had even scheduled surgery to fix a hernia for June. Never the less I ended up having to cancel the surgery because low and behold, I had fallen pregnant again. I was over the moon. I consulted my gp and he set up scans every 2nd week to ease my very paranoid mind.

Our first scan was at 5 weeks, and I got to see my beautiful bean, but because it was too early there was no visible heart beat. We went back at 8 weeks to see our bean, and still not heart beat. The radiographer rescheduled for 2 day later.

It’s a day I will never ever forget. 11 June 2010!

There was hype and excitement in the air , all across the country, it was the opening of the Fifa Soccer World Cup. Philip couldn’t make it to the scan because of that (he had a function) and I told him not to be silly, its just one scan out of many.

I remember the look on the radiographers face after she had tried for 15 min to find the heart beat, I knew by then already, she simply looked at me and said find a doctor.

It was the one day when there were no doctors available, they all left early to enjoy the festivities! I literally called 10 and none could help me then, So I drove myself off to the ER and they gave me an injection and told me to go home and wait, the baby will come away on its own.

A piece of me died that day. I choke just typing this.

The next morning I was not functional and my aunt took me back to the ER and I was admitted. The doctor did a scan and my baby died at 7 weeks 3days. I was given more medication, put in a drip and I waited for the contractions. The nurses kept the pethidine following so my body was numb, but it didn’t stop my heart from breaking with every ache.

I remember waking up and my dad was next to my bed holding my hand, I was sobbing in my sleep. He held me so tight, as if he was trying to absorb the pain. I woke up again and my husband was sobbing next to my bed, he has no idea I saw that, I woke up again and my bestest best was there stroking my hair giving me love. I woke up again and I wished I hadn’t . Through all this my husband stayed next to me, he saw things that no man should have to and put his own pain aside to keep me going.

The Monday morning, the doctor realized I was not losing the baby and that I would need a D&C, I was wheeled into theatre and in a few minutes my baby was gone from me forever. I wish that this option was chosen first, it was easier to deal with.

I was scarred and I still am, I think about my angel and I wonder what he/ she would have been like?

It took me a while to get myself into a functioning person. I sought help when I knew I was on a slippery slope of hectic decline and I did my best, I sought medical attention for health issues that could have caused my loss and I rescheduled my hernia op for the 23rd August 2010, because if I fell pregnant again, I wanted no medication to be the cause of my loss.

I was diagnosed with thyroid problems and given pregnancy meds to sort that out and I had my Hiatus Hernia fix. I lost 15kgs, and I was getting back on my feet feeling good about me.

Philip and I decided to give it more time before we tried again………

Life, Set in Motion

I know, I have been a bad blogger!

Things have been so hectic, starting work and getting into a groove at home with Tori and Josh has not been easy. I have had a melt down or two on the way, but I think it is safe to say, I have found my new rhythm and I am now learning to dance to the beat of my own drum.

Lots has happened and there is lots I want to talk about , I have a constant stream of things in my head that I know I just need to get out there and get my blog on.

I think the biggest (and best) thing that has happened since returning to work, was a little session of self evaluation. You know those “Am I really happy” questions?

In theory, the answer should be yes! From any outside perspective it would look like I had it all! But to me it felt like was a sheep stuck in a hole (help me, I am stuck sheep – chop) I was looking at my life feeling like I had not achieved, or attempted to achieve anything that would add self worth. The hard realization that I HAD actually reached my “glass ceiling” career wise and that was it for me.

It was like having my own aha moment, Oprah style. I promptly got off me backside and enrolled for a course through INTEC ( seeing as I had missed the UNISA enrolment) and I knew if I did not do it now , I would use the excuse of needing to enroll at UNISA and forgetting to do it in March, simply because I would be comfy with “where” I was again.

So within the next few days, I will be getting my material to study for a Public Relations certificate, I have worked out which subjects I will write exams for in June and which will be written In December. THERE IS NO TURNING BACK NOW. The best part is, I enrolled for something that has got absolutely nothing to do with what I do at what, but simply something I have always wanted to do!

This set other things in motion for me, I had a look at my mental to do list, and most of the to do’s have been hanging around for nearly 4 yrs now, much like my studying.

The first thing the irked me was the state of my house, inside, so went and bought some new furniture and yes I know a few couches and dining room suite is not the means to all happiness, it’s a means to me doing what makes me happy. My couches are no longer something my dad gave me; the lounge suite isn’t something my other in law passed on. Its mine! I worked very hard for it, and I look at it as a sign of achievement, of moving forward rather than backward.

I have also got the motivation to add some colour and creativity into my life, by painting over the drab off white (actual ly white but faded with age) enamel walls my Gran painted 20 yrs ago! This has been on my to do list for over 3 yrs now, and as shallow as it sounds, it makes me very very very happy.

This is just the beginning for me; I am adamant that I will teach my children that achievement does not discriminate against age!

For the first time, in a long time, I am excited and I cannot wait for 2012 to roll around!

Till next time ( soon I hope)

Cheers, Chow,Adios or whatever the appropriated sign off is

ME

URGH!!!!!!!

Yesterday I did a whole blog post on how badly it sucks to be back at work after maternity leave! I was exceptionally proud that I had actually done another post!

And then, just like my blackberry connection it dissappeared! There was an absolute failure to communicate in my life yesterday. and it sucked. MASSIVE.SWEATY.HAIRY.OLD.WRINKLED.DIRTY.DONKEY.BALLS!

Which, FYI, was the name of said VANISHING blog post and FYI again, I did press publish and I viewed it on my site.

So anyway, about my day yesterday! Crap it was hard. It was a whole load harder, emotionally, than I expected. But it did go quicker than I thought and my MIL managed alot better than I thought, and my child still regconised me when I got home. BUT MAN IT WAS CRAP HARD and it sucked so so bad. I wasnt ready to leave her yet.

However this morning was easier and such is life.

Work is great, its a whole lot better since my promotion ( so far) but that is for another time ( actually meant for today – stupid vanishing post)

And I am dying to tell you about Oli, but its not my place to ,so if his mother doesnt do it soon, I may be forced to.

Well et me toodle off and go waste some more time looking and dreaming about the iPhone online *sigh*

Bonjoir, bye, totsien,haba whatever….or whatever the appropriate sign of is

Me

Bits and Bobs

One week in and I am already a bad blogger, but let me update you on my mundane life and indulged myself in getting another post up.

Mostly last week was “taken” up by sleep training. My baby daughter has somehow gotten it into her head the not sleep during the day is awesome. I think it pretty much sucks, because 1) I have no IDEA how to entertain a 8-11 week old baby and 2) Mama needs a break!

So with alot of screaming, wild kicking and “tantrums”, baby girl EVENTUALLY figured out that a 10 am nap for 2 hours doesnt suck so bad.I had a good day Wednesday to Friday, but I guess I will be able to claim victory by the end of next week , after I have maintained a steady routine her. Trust me , she is a sneaky one, and with one coo and a bat of an eyelid, she can easily claim victory over me!

I am also having big issues with leaky Pampers, almost every night my baby wakes up damp, I am now trying out a few other brands (tg for sample packs) to see how they work. Baby girl has also had a nappy rash that seems to flare every now and then, i am yet to find a cream that will treat it and heal it completely, any suggestions?

In other news i have had an all round good weekend, went to watch rugby at Loftus and took Josh along for the first time, his face was priceless when he walked into the stadium, but by half time he was so bored and annoying that I could have sold him for a bag of biltong. We also had his last soccer tournament for the season, which meansno  more running around like headless chickens twice a week.  Although I will say soccer has been one of the best things to happen for him and i will miss his enthusiasm, but thats another blog post alone.

I will finish off with things I learnt this week:

– Sleep training is hard, for both your mind and soul

– I love being home with baby girl, but I am really starting to miss work

– A piece of cake always taste better when you having it with a friend

– My husband is an annoying shit, but i love him vely vely much

– My dog is the dumbest creature i have ever known or possibly will know

– My bf is a very brave chick – she write exams with a newborn

– I am very very excited to meet Ollie

– I love love love watching rugby

-I hate hate hate watching soccer, would rather hammer nails in my head.

I hope you had a great weekened , and that a better week is heading for you!

Cheers, bye, chow, totsiens or whatever the appropriate sign off is……

ME

 

 

 

 

 

3rd Time Lucky

* i had a good thing going here then i lost the post!

** Note to self remeber to connect internet before publishing

Back to where i was…….

I used to blog, I tried it a few times, but I usually got bored or something came along and “screwed” it up, EG:I tried the single abandoned mom blog and then I met my husband and THEN I tried the newly wed blog, but the first year wasnt ans “picture perfect” as I thought and gave it up for a bad joke, simply because I was too polite to blog about it.

So now I am trying the me angle. I was always so pedantic about blogging content ( whatever that may be) that i was over thinking my blog posts and making them so freaking boring, that even I got bored with the whole idea. So yes you will no see numerous photos of my personal zoo, you will hear about what i did on my very lazy sunday morning and i will talk endlessy about my life.

Why? because that is me, my kids, my husband and the wonderful people in my life make me, well me. And i actually like me! And frankly I think thats is quite interesting. I might even write a book one all about me!

But….i promise not to be too boring, and i might even attempt an interesting post about poo nappies vs sleep training or something equally crappy and not boring.

but i ask only two things, leave a comment becasue it will make me look less borinh on the www and read my about page, by doing that you will understand why my grammar sucks on such a grand scale.

Sweet dreams, cheers, adios, chow or whatever the approriate sign off is….

ME